What is Character, Really?
Character is who you are when the applause stops.
It’s the difference between image and identity. It’s not what people think of you—it’s what’s true about you.
In my own life, there was a defining moment that tested my character as a teenager. I made a devastating choice—I drove under the influence and crashed into three cars. That mistake cost me a dream: my shot at playing baseball at the next level. But that failure also built something far more important than a career.
It built humility.
It built accountability.
It built the foundation of the man I am today.
That’s character.
The 3 Tests of Character
Let’s break it down. Character is tested in three areas:
1. The Test of Temptation
Who are you when you’re offered the shortcut?
Integrity means saying “no” even when you could get away with “yes.” In business, in marriage, in leadership—it’s about choosing what’s right over what’s easy.
Tool: Before making a decision, ask yourself—Would I be okay if this was printed on the front page of tomorrow’s paper?
2. The Test of Pressure
Character is revealed when life turns up the heat.
How do you respond when things don’t go your way? Do you lash out, lie, blame others—or do you pause, own it, and rise through it?
Tool: Practice the 3-second pause before reacting under stress. Train yourself to respond, not just react.
3. The Test of Power
When you’re given influence, do you use it to lift others—or to elevate yourself?
True character shows when you have the freedom to do anything but choose to serve instead.
Tool: Make it a weekly habit to ask someone, “How can I help you win this week?”
Character in Action: Small Steps That Build Big Integrity
If you want to develop character, don’t wait for the big moments. Focus on the small disciplines:
- Returning the grocery cart when no one’s watching.
- Showing up on time—even when there’s no consequence.
- Finishing what you start.
- Speaking the truth when lying would be easier.
- Honoring people in private, not just public.
These “unseen reps” build inner strength.
Faith and Character
As a man of faith, I know that God isn’t looking for perfection—He’s looking for purity of heart.
Psalm 26:2 says, “Examine me, Lord, and try me; test my mind and my heart.” That’s a daily invitation to let your inner life lead your outer actions.
Reflection Prompts
Ask yourself these questions:
- What decisions am I making when no one is watching?
- Are there areas where I’ve compromised my values?
- Who do I want to become—and what will it take in private to get there?
Conclusion
Character isn’t built overnight, and it’s never about being perfect.
It’s about being consistent, accountable, and authentic—even when it costs you something. Especially when it costs you something.
Let this be the week you lean in.
To speak truthfully. To lead humbly. To live with integrity.
Because purpose without character is a ticking clock.
But character with purpose? That’s legacy.